Posted by: Deborah Delp | 2009/07/11

The Third Hero and Teacher

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Kayla came into our families life via Samantha six years ago. She is the best friend and best influence for Samantha. In the process of developing a friendship it has evolved into a sisterhood. JR was starting his first year at Vista and was very severely autistic. Samantha was dealing with a load no child of the tender age of 9 should ever have to endure. Our lives were in shambles then; at least mine was. We were hedging out bets on the Vista placement and of course as I have said in previous posts the gamble has paid off.

This blog isn’t about JR though; it is about the ability that Kayla has for love, acceptance and compassion. She is member of our family because she loves us; warts and all. Her compassion stems I believe from her own personal turmoil. At the age of 11 she lost her innocence against her will being raped by a trusted friend of the families. Being thirteen (it took 2 years to get to any form of justice) and going to court to face the demon, she couldn’t find that strength to face him in front of twenty or so strangers in a courtroom. He got off with a misdemenor and community service. His payback will come at a later date. She lost her father against her wishes and to his heroic battle with cancer. We didn’t know her then but I know these two events began a domino effect for the rest of life to date. Her mother and I became fast friends too because of the relationship that was being forged between Kayla and Sam. Norma Jean, Kayla’s mom and one of my dearest friends had a relationship with her daughter that at the time I was so jealous of. But by watching them I learned how to be a better mother and better friend to my own children. At least I think I have. Another “benefit” that came from my relationship with Norma Jean is the discovery that Kayla’s older brother David has asperger syndrome and is able to understand why he is different from most of his peers.

So the relationship Kayla had with her mother may not have lasted as long as it should have for Norma also passed over to the better side two years ago.   however, it was more full filling then a lot of mother-daughter relationships that last far longer. I believe one of the things that made their relationship so strong is the strife that they both endured while together. In addition to the lose of both her parents, Kayla was diagnosed with systemic lupus at the age of 16. She’s now 20 and has endured more physical pain then anyone else I have ever known. While Norma was getting her chemotherapy treatments for cancer, Kayla was getting chemotherapy treatments for lupus as well. They traveled every hardship hand in hand. And yet Kayla remains strong in her faith. She believes her parents are in a better place and that she will be with them and her love again. Yeah, just recently Kayla’s boyfriend has passed over to the better side as well.

So with everything this young woman has endured I have learned that in comparison my life is a tad bit easier. Because of Kayla it is easier. Life isn’t always fair and innocent people do suffer in this plain. Those are facts that can not be changed. What can be changed is what we do with this knowledge and how we learn from it.

Posted by: Deborah Delp | 2009/06/28

Why Aren’t We Screaming From the Rooftops…..

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Over on Age of Autism there is an article I just got done reading titled “You Don’t Say – But Maybe You Should“. The individual who wrote the article is writing about the vaccine issue surrounding autism and the discomfort she feels bringing up the subject around family and friends. Personally, I don’t understand this attitude. Maybe it’s just my personality type, I don’t care about political correctness and I never have. I say what I mean and I mean what I say.

I have stopped people with young infants or children who are showing auto-immune reactions (allergies, eczema, diabetes, etc etc) and especially expectant mothers in church, in the grocery store, at the park, where ever the situation presents itself and I begin to tell them the dangers of vaccines. I tell them what happened to both my children because of their childhood vaccines and give them a business card that I carry with me at all times. On the card it clearly states that I am an autism and vaccine awareness advocate. My contact information is on the card which includes my phone number, e-mail address (vaccines_r_toxic@kuhncom.net) which itself says it all for me, website address (www.autism-hope.150m.com) and this blog address.

I do this because I believe it is my obligation to inform as many people as possible that vaccines are dangerous, that parents are not being informed of all these dangers, and that there are waivers available in all states to keep a child from being vaccinated against the will of the parents. This is too important an issue to worry about political correctness. Yes, over the course of the years I have lost a few friends, especially those working in the healthcare industry who have been brainwashed into thinking that vaccines are the holy grail of the medical establishment. I don’t care because I know when I go to bed at night that I have done my part to inform. I never tell anyone not to vaccinate. I do tell them I would NEVER vaccinate my children again. In the course of the conversation I also warn them about the environmental contributions as well as the pesticide use and the genetic predisposition of this issue.

I believe this is my obligation because I refuse to believe that what happened to my children was done in vain. God has his plan for this generation of children and their parents and I believe it is to stop this soulless bastards (fill in the blank as to which soulless bastards I am referring to) from continuing to injure our children. We are at WAR and those who are doing nothing basically are saying “it’s ok, do what you want”. To me that is unacceptable. What these establishments have done to our children, here in america and around the globe is nothing short of crimes against humanity.This is a legal definition of it: “Other inhumane acts of a similar character intentionally causing great suffering, or serious injury to body or to mental or physical health.” If what our children have suffered isn’t crimes against humanity by this definition then nothing is. The vaccine program is an intentional act that has caused great suffering,  to the point of death and serious bodily/mental injury.I will do what I can to correct this injustice. If everyone did what they could and started looking at the big picture this “autism”  vaccine issue would be resolved by now. And it makes me sick to think that because of the silence we as a community may be just as guilty of these crimes as those who have inflicted the suffering.

A friend of mine had this to say in the reader’s comment section of the article Let’s all try to remember that silence=more damage. Our hesitation to speak the truth is Pharma’s best friend.” And she couldn’t be more right. The drug cartels are banking on the hope that we will feel too uncomfortable talking about this topic in “polite company”. Well it’s time that as a community we grow a set of brass ones, and stopped worrying about offending others. The insanity won’t stop until we do.

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